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Tales from the edge of reason
Ugh, I hate snark! 
29th-May-2008 09:49 pm
Le Sigh
Okay, not sure how much this belongs here. It's more of a whinge than anything else.

I'm on a board with person A and person B. (and other people.)

A is the admin and awhile ago she made me mod. Good and fine. B joined a bit later and took the part of A's romantic interest - not because she liked the character, but because she wanted the challenge of playing a canon she didn't like.

B is very confident, runs a successful board of her own, and is very forthright with her opinions to the point where she is sometimes rude.

A is much more reserved, eager to please and careful not to offend anyone.

B has been pretty forward with many things. She's made it pretty clear she is having trouble writing with A, because she doesn't think A is 'up to her standard.' She's even said she cannot feel inspired to post with A - but she posts with me just fine, which really upsets A.

A is not a bad rper. Not at all, just different to B. I'm caught in the middle of their blue - A is asking me for help and advice and pointers on how she can improve her rpg so B will be happy. B is complaining.

I don't think A needs to improve her rp at all. I think she's doing just fine, but now her confidence is shattered and she's considering packing it in and giving someone else control. She doesn't want to kick B out because she thinks that will affect her own board's chances of survival (it's very new) and because she worries about the confrontation.

I'm trying to fix the issue without taking sides, which is hard, because I really do sympathise with A. And I'm her Mod, so I have to side with her anyway, technically. I don't think it's fair of B to be so difficult - she must know how much this upsets A ... or else she doesn't care. B and I get along quite well, too. So it's just awkward all round.

I think the solution is for B to leave. She doesn't really want to be there anyway, I don't think - and I don't like the way she's shot A's confidence to pieces. You just don't do that. If you're a good roleplayer you encourage others if you don't think they're that great - you don't shoot them down. Especially not at their own board.

However, this isn't my fight, you know? I've been caught in the middle too many times in the past. So I'm not going to act as an intermediary between them. I'm gently advising each one, but I want them to sort it out between themselves.

Does it sound like I'm doing the right thing?
Comments 
29th-May-2008 12:15 pm (UTC)
Perfectly fits in here. ;D

I recently had a similiar case - Person X complaining about Person Y's post being too short and that on top of that 'she can't go on from there', being all arrogant and claiming to be the better writer, blahblah. I nearly lost my cool, cause Y's post might have been shorter, but all X did herself before was yaddayaddayadda, proving that quantity does NOT equal quality. She isn't a bad writer at all, but she tends to muse on and on and on and do nothing, using as many words as possible. Therefor it's her fault if X's eyes glaze over and she's sort of paralysed. lol

Anyway, from what you wrote I sympathise with A as well, cause seriously, B's just rude!

Ultimately I think it's better that you keep out of it as good as possible, cause a solution has to come from them.
29th-May-2008 12:29 pm (UTC)
Thanks Mata - I really appreciate your imput.

I HATE the quantity thing. I'm on one board ... albeit not very often anymore ... which thinks themselves very advanced. They write enormous posts in itty bitty text. I have to magnify the page to 150% to read it a lot of the time! And my eyes glaze over much of the content. They think that just because they can write a lot it's somehow superior. They're not. They're BORING.

Anyway, lol. Tanjent! Thanks again Mata. *Hugs*
30th-May-2008 10:14 am (UTC)
Anytime ;)

Interesting, so it seems to be something RPGs in any language suffer from. The stupid thought that length is the most important hing. Our Heroes RPG has been belittled a few times for our 'way too short' character profiles, because nowadays you apparently have to write a whole biography on your character's life to be 'good'. RPGs sure have changed since the time when I started. o.O

*squishes*
30th-May-2008 11:29 am (UTC)
*Nods* I despise the elitism. It's meant to be fun - stop hanging shit on people and let them be! No one's forcing you to join any board/group that you don't want to ...

*sigh* Ahh well!! *Squishes back*
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